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If it is love that integrates opposites, is the order of love the path that opens and releases within us something that until then was outside us?
That is why it is called the Order of Love.
For some, the very terminology Order of Love is unimaginable because order is associated with something rigid, programmed, controlled, on one side, and on the other side we have love, something unbridled, intangible, essential, the greatest energy. So how do you connect the two? No need to connect them because they were never separate in the first place.
The order of love is already connected in its essence, the opposites are joined as in Yin and Yang. We have black on one side, white on the other side and we have ether, that quintessence (Latin: quinta essentia – fifth essence) that connects opposites like light and darkness, black and white – that is the Order of Love.
A love subject to laws, but cosmic laws. When these basic cosmic laws are violated, illness and suffering occur.
The School of Life is here to remind us of the cosmic laws, which our ancestors knew, and allow ourselves to enjoy Love, which has a future on all levels and fields, in this life Here and Now.
The order of love – family constellations is a phenomenological method, which with its effective healing benefits goes beyond the framework of classical therapeutic work. It is a way of healing that includes both the unknown transpersonal and inner spiritual realms, intertwined with relationships within the family and wider social environment. This procedure at the same time overcomes the boundaries of the personal and enables insight into transgenerational dynamics and their effect on the individual. Knowing these dynamics through the so-called collective memory, which connects us with the transpersonal, enables us to see the connection and meaning of relationships, often leading to incredible progress, final resolution and healing. In the work of the order of love, the feeling experienced by the participants chosen to represent the members of the client’s (family) system takes center stage. One of the basic human abilities is working here, on the basis of which one can experience the feelings of other people on a physical and emotional level and acquire “knowledge” about them, even though absolutely no cognitive information was available before that.
Being a “medium” for the experiences of others is a human ability that has its roots in the primordial beginning of human existence, and is one of the oldest “knowings” of humans. We encounter it in many other modern forms of therapy, such as in the concepts of mutual transference and countertransference in psychoanalysis.
In the order of love, the highest degree of differentiation of this ability has been reached so far. A certain family constellation represents a so-called “field of knowledge” by means of which the energy state within a (family) system is practically depicted, with extremely effective healing potential. With its experiential contents of the spiritual energy-informational field, this procedure confirms and complements some natural scientific concepts, such as, for example, Rupert Sheldrake’s “morphogenetic fields”.
Work in the field of the order of love is solution-oriented and subject to natural orders and laws that operate within the family or any system, therefore, it is subject to factual categories regardless of our moral codes. Violation of these laws can lead to severe suffering and illness, and their re-establishment – to healing. By submitting to these natural laws and surrendering to energy processes in the service of life, love is reached, which becomes the decisive and supporting force of the family.
Such laws include, for example, the right of all members of the family (system) to belong, regardless of the prevailing moral norms. There is also the inviolable right to one’s own destiny, to one’s own suffering and guilt. Thus, for example, children cannot carry the burden of their parents, but they should and must leave the honor and dignity to their parents to cope with their own burden, thus contributing to the progress of their own lives. The inclusion of ancestors and dead family members, as well as those who, for example, were energetically attached to the family due to war suffering, leads to reconciliation on a deeper level, with which the living ones receive new life force.
Work in the field of order of love requires a high professional post-graduate upgrade and qualification and implies a good knowledge of recognized psychotherapeutic methods, but also the ability of the practitioner of the order of love to renounce the idea of controlling the situation, so that, as Bert Hellinger says, he could “work without intention and fear “.
“In trying to find the right place in life, we can only get a small glimpse of what it means to follow the path of the Great Spirit. There is no Buddhist, Indian, Islamic, Jewish, Catholic, Orthodox, or any other religious system on that path. On such a path, universal love reigns.” According to Bert Hellinger, “If we want to be healthy, we must listen to our soul! After all, we are here because we cannot escape ourselves. Until a person manages to see and find himself in the eyes and heart of the people around him, he will be lonely. As long as he does not allow the people he lives with to penetrate into the secret spheres of his own soul, he will not know the true value of tranquility and security. As long as he lives in fear of being exposed, he will not be able to know others or himself – he will be and remain alone.”
The order of love helps us to restore the lost balance. All the primordial ancient knowledge of our family is present in us. But we often hold something against our parents, simultaneously taking their fate upon ourselves out of love and with the best of intentions; sometimes we are angry with them because of the way they raised us or because of the injuries they caused us… But those parents, whether we want to admit it to ourselves or not, live in us, they are a part of us. And every time we feel resistance to them, we are actually in resistance to ourselves.
The Order of Love allows us to see all the delusions, diseases, beliefs of our parents (and other ancestors) and accept them as theirs, not our own. The order teaches us to love our father, no matter what he was or is, to love our mother, with all her virtues and faults. Only then can we love ourselves as we are. Only then can a fresh bud of new life sprout from us. Only then do we leave the fate of our father and his family, our mother and her family, and begin to live our own purpose.
The Order strives to achieve an optimal order within each family. The optimal order is one in which family members spend the least necessary amount of energy for the family to function as a whole, and for them to develop as individuals.
First of all, there is a big difference between treatment and healing. If someone has fallen ill, it is not appropriate to talk about treatment or recovery, but about healing. To start feeling well again is short-lived, and healing means that something has integrated, that the issue that caused the disease no longer has power over us, it has come full circle. That disease no longer appears, nor that symptom, nor that ailment. This is what the Order of Love takes us through. Therefore, it gives us the possibility to help ourselves in a very strong energetic way to be one again, to be healed in that wider and deeper context. There is almost no ailment or illness, or symptoms, the causes of which could not be looked at and transformed by this method.
The method is suitable both for working with individuals and families who face the most difficult life problems: serious illness, death, suicide, infidelity, separate life, divorce, incest, abortion, sterility, i.e. infertility… – because it finds causes and solutions, as well as possibilities that revive love. This helps the participant to recognize the source of the problem, the so-called energy “nodes”, which often hinder the flow of life energy and love for generations – and thus restart the life project, either from the beginning, or from the point where it stopped long ago.
Imagine the unimaginable… Such is the experience of everyone, literally everyone, who had the experience of participating in parallel constellations. The intensity, dynamics and culmination of energy that occurs during parallel constellations is an experience that is difficult to put into words. One of the specifics of Vlado’s work and also the most famous contribution to the development of the method are magical parallel constellations.
This means that multiple clients simultaneously set up a constellation on the desired topic. Ilic presented parallel constellations at the professional Congress in Moscow from September 23-26, 2011. when more than 500 participants took part in the constellations at the same time. It sounds incredible, but it is true, and also magical.
The synergy of parallel constellations significantly contributes to more intensive growth.
Not only because of this, there are more and more female colleagues and fellow constellators with many years of personal experience on Vlado’s education programs. The educational program of the School of Life is open to everyone, regardless of previous experience. Education in non-knowledge
